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So many people believe that most men are not comfortable with their wives being richer or more successful than they are.
Is this true?
If yes, why are such men so uncomfortable?
Should a man always pray to be richer or more successful than his wife?
|It all bothers down on ego. Most men will prefer they are blessed financially more than their wife . They believe it will get into the woman’s head if she’s more successful than they are and people will look at them as a lesser man. Or the woman may treat them with less respect than they deserve.
Civil Servant, Port Harcourt, River State, Nigeria.
|Men who pray or wish to have their wife less rich than them have issue with ego and self esteem. If you look at such men most of them are not high achievers and because they cannot achieve much they are afraid to marry or have their existing wife become richer than them thinking the wife may become stronger and more powerful than them. Such men are the ones that will go about spoiling the rich girls that they are not marry-able.
They will convince their brothers, friends and associate against rich girls but the truth is, not all rich girls are rude and not all poor girls are humble. So its left for someone to figure it out
Roberta Edu, IT Expert, Lagos.
|Let me start from my ex. When we started the relationship then, he got to know about my pay, it was about three times his and wasn’t comfortable. He was suggesting i quit and take teaching without a good reason. Unknown to me, he discussed with friends especially his mother who insisted that if i must marry her son i must quit and get a shop because according to her, i will turn her son to boy-boy.
Bola Oshibote, Accountant, Lagos, Nigeria.
|I believe in individual differences. I don’t blame a man who is not comfortable for the wife being richer in that God has made man to be the head of the family and it may not work out if the wife is richer.
As for me, I prefer my husband to be richer so that he can play his role in the house. I want him to have his due respect from me. Even if am comfortable financially, I still want gifts from him so that I can appreciate him more. So I prefer my husband to be richer and be more successful than me.
Honestly, I don’t like people pretending, no matter how a woman respects her husband, once she will feel somehow on top if she is richer than her husband. I don’t give a damn. Some women may condemn my feelings but I maintain it that I don’t and will never pray that I am richer than my husband.Stella Adebola,
Nurse. New York, USA.
| Definitely men are not comfortable when their wife are richer. One good reason is this: the bible and Koran teach us that men are the head of the house. When this is going the opposite way, men are not really happy. For me, I will say is a normal behaviour that should be expected from any normal human being. Its like the junior brother is richer than the senior brother. He may accept the situation but he will not be happy.
Men should pray to be richer but they should also accept their faith and they should believe in Eni leru lo leru. Your wife belong to you and whatever wealth she has belong to the husband.
Men are the head of the house and you cannot be the head when you don’t have what it takes. Men should pray to be richer but if doesn’t happen, they should work together with their wives. One flesh should not be forgotten.Reverend Prophetess Yemisi Adekotujo
ST MARY CHURCH ALADURA CHURCH, HOMERTON LONDON
| Well, it depends on individuals. Men with EGO dont buy that, because they always feels intimidated by the woman, even when she is not the rubbing it on them. They always find a way of feeling she’s showing off by misinterpreting the woman’s motives and actions.
Why some feels no mater how much she earns her money is our money or my money! Somebody like my husband who will encourage you to try and be the best you can will never see anything wrong with that.Glory Ogamba, Lagos Nigeria.