THE COMPLAINTS OF WOMEN ON FATHERS DAY
Weeks before the Fathers Day Sunday, I sent questionnaires to some women on Facebook to comment on men as husbands, fathers, sons, brothers, etc if we are doing well.
I was so shocked that 60% of the women who responded partly said we men become less romantic after marriage. We stop wooing them immediately they say yes to our love proposals. I say shooo! I think say na Facebook joke o.
Fathers Day proper in my Church, the Coordinator of Men Fellowship preached on Having a Good Home. When he called for questions after his message, a lady (who I’m sure is reading this hehehehe…lol) raised the same issue: “Men become less romantic after marriage. Men stop wooing their wives after marriage. All we do while chasing them, we stop after marriage.” Hmmm. No be small thing.
Funny enough, her husband sat right in front of me and we both wondered what do women want again after all the love and care we show them at home. What is the definition of wooing in marriage?
As we were laughing, the Coordinator of Men’s Fellowship spoilt our case when he owned up that he is also guilty. And he is just learning how to be romantic again with his wife. I am sure his marriage can’t be less than 35years.
The rudest shock came after service. At home, baby descended on me.
“All you men are the same. I thought I am the only one who has stopped enjoying those benefits… ”
“Kilode o, baby” . I asked her
“You men are deceitful. You woo women into marriage and stop wooing her after marriage.
“Baby, are you saying in your heart of hearts that I’ve stopped loving you?
“No. To love is different from wooing. You are a sweet husband, no doubt. But I still want the boyfriend in you to continue. Those things you did when you were my boyfriend, when you were running after me coming to our house every night. Those things you were saying, where are they now? You always followed me everywhere, salon, market, my friends places. You took me to the best eateries in town, bought things for me. We spent our weekends in cosy hotels. When I was coming to your house, you would have cooked tilapia peppersoup for me. There was this crab and big big shrimps you always bought for me that time. Since our wedding day, I’ve never seen them till date. You men are cheats..”
“That we men give you the peace and love you need is not enough. You are still searching for wooing part two after almost 20 years in marriage! I will be wooing clients to get money, wooing children to make them happy, wooing God to bless us, wooing families to keep them at peace, wooing my work to maintain the house. How many people shall the man woo? Love is not enough, you want wooing round 2. May God save we men from you women…!
