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I am 27 years old graduate of Ogun state University. I served three years ago. No job but I am doing businesses here and there. It takes care of me well such that I can afford a self-contain and I bought a Honda car early this year. My late dad is from Ogbomosho, my mum Kwara.
Uncle B, my problem is about my family and the girl I hope to marry. She is Ijebu and after one. Beautiful girl, yellow like a mulatto. She had a baby boy for one Ijebu boy. If no one tells you she after one, you will not know. Very fine.
The day my mum got to know that she is from Ijebu and has a pre marital child, she came to Lagos from Ilorin. When this girl came to say hello to her, my mum told her pointblank that Oloun a pese oko rere fun e o. GOD WILL PROVIDE YOUR OWN HUSBAND FOR YOU. I am sure she understood what my mother meant and she left quietly.
I got angry with my mum that why should she speak to her like that. My mum said I am a small boy and she would not open her eyes and see me walk into trap.
Uncle B, My elder sister who is fifteen years older told me that the Ijebu have a culture where my wife will forever be relating with the family of the man she gave birth for, adding that anytime the family has a function she would go there to participate in reverence for her child in that family.
Another thing I noticed is that in her family, virtually all her sisters have children outside except one who is the wife of an Anglican pastor in Lagos. Even her mother was a divorcee but remarried to one man now. Her mother popularly called Alhaja is neither a Christian or Muslim. Anyone goes.
Uncle B, my issue is my sisters and mum won’t let me take control of my life. They feel I am a small boy. I am a graduate for God sake. And almost 30. How can I free myself from them? On this Ijebu thing, do you advise me to let her go? What are the challenges involved to marry an Ijebu lady who is after one? I love her. Pretty. Slender. Mulatto. You wont know she is after one.
Uncle B, please advise me as your son. All these things people talk about Ijebu girls, are they true? Will you allow Talo to marry an Ijebu girl?
Thank you Uncle B.
I think there are more important things that come up for considerations when thinking of a wife or husband material. Where whoever comes from is not really important to me though that can’t be said of our mothers. Don’t blame them o. Mothers know what they are talking about.
My first condition, if you care to know is … is she born again? If she is not, I won’t advise Talo to marry her. I can only advise o.
After being born again, I will consider Character, intelligence+education, personality and beauty, four values Martin Luther King Jnr searched for in locating his wife, Correta Scot. These were the same values i looked for and found in my wife. One day, I will tell you how i met my wife.
Now…on the Ijebu thing…ehm. ..ehm… Let me piss first. Am coming.