This challenge is about a DNA test I asked to be conducted on my daughter. I am a father of four, two boys and two girls. I have them boy, girl, bo
This challenge is about a DNA test I asked to be conducted on my daughter.
I am a father of four, two boys and two girls. I have them boy, girl, boy, girl. I am a civil servant and my wife, a medical doctor. To God be the glory, I don’t have any challenge with all of them except my first daughter, 14 years old in JSS3, in a boarding house.
Everybody say I dominate my wife because all my children are my splitting resemblance. They all look like me, my face, colour.
MY CHILDREN
All my children are fast, sharp-witted, intelligent, brilliant except this daughter. In her class of 40, she would be 35 in position, 38, 34. The best she has ever been is 25! Often, I do not care about the position, I check the grades. P, P, C, C.
Like her siblings, her mother and I give all of them the best. We don’t joke about their needs. Their mum does not take nonsense from them. I am the most lenient.
I don’t beat children. Their mother slaps, use the cane, belt, etc., when she is angry with them. She doesn’t spare the rod.
THIS DAUGHTER
You only hear her when you watch Yoruba African magic or Zee world. She can watch film ooo! Tell her to pick her books and study, wahala! Housework, wahala! She can also cook!
Her catering result C. She had one A in only one subject. I do not know where her mother brought this pregnancy from. Pastor Bola, Please save me!
Not too long ago, news broke that a nurse in a country confessed to having been changing newborn babies in the hospital she worked.
I called my wife that I hope they didn’t change this daughter in the hospital because I don’t know where this girl is from.
I also asked her, jokingly, that I hope the baby belongs to me or can we do a DNA test? I told her I don’t trust Nigerian women o.
MY FRUSTRATION
My wife got angry. We have been on this for a week now, and my house is hot now. I don’t think I am wrong to have asked for a DNA test because I am just frustrated.
Where is this girl from when my other children are the complete opposite of her? That she resembles me does not matter to me again. Children always resemble the man who sleeps and tops the pregnancy.
What can I do about this girl?
She makes me cry. How can I boost her intelligence? Please as a pastor and elder, help me.
BJ
PLEASE help this person with a piece of advice in the comment space below…
COMMENTS
Asking for a DNA is not the solution, if you carry out a DNA and it shows she is not your child. Where will you send her to?
All children are not born desame and for the fact that, she is not as intelligent as your other children, does not indicate that she not your child.
She might not be Educationally inclined, look for her strength, ( cooking) and let her follow what she is passionate about.
And make sure you love her and never look down on her because she is not intelligent to your own standard.
Education is not a guarantee of a successful life or career, there many graduates, that are gate man, drug addicts etc.
What guarantees a successful life, is having Jesus in your life, having a loving and caring parent and growing up in an environment where there is opportunities to become what God has ordained her to be.
And who knows she might turn out to be the most successful of all your children and the very one that will care and look after you in your old age. Love and encourage her.
Oro sunukun?
Well in Yoruba land they said no bastard children but if the man bend in doing the DNA so let it be so, at list to be sure.
New strategies in her education and prayer can help her to improve some time children are not wire same, let the father know she may need help and let them study what she know how to do best and channel her energy toward that.
I wish her best lock in life.
Since the man is already having doubt, l suggest they go for the DNA for peace sake,
What if the DNA is done and was proven that the girl is not yours, will you take the girl back to the hospital or maybe send the mother and daughter packing?, What difference does it make. Please do not question the gift of God weather yours or not. If it were someone else child won’t you care for her? Please show that little princes much love and care because that is the only thing that will help her build sweet memory and emotional balance. Get her a private specialist tutor that will assist her in academy. The joy of the lord is your strength.