Marriage or the choice of a partner is often a black market. A man (or woman) can hide his character for months just to achieve a goal. The heart of man is deep. No one can search it.
You often require the power of God to decipher the heart of man. No wonder the Bible says he who finds a wife (and husband too) finds a good thing and receives favour from God. Seriously na favour fa! No be your brilliance o. The Scripture can not be broken.
If after the close of work, you are eager to go home to the warm embrace of your spouse, please learn how to say ‘Lord, I thank You.’
MENTORING WITH BOLA ADEWARA: WHEN DOES FOR BETTER OR WORSE APPLY IN MARRIAGE?
WHY MANY CHRISTIAN SISTERS REMAIN UNMARRIED – By Ayo Akerele
Why do I say this? Hmm… Not many men can do this. So many homes are hurting bad. Not because the spouses are weak or lazy, can’t calculate or plan, foolish or that you are smarter than them. For some people, things don’t just work.
I once met someone, a well-known relationship and marriage counsellor, whose marriage is at the brink of collapse. I have seen many men of God who join people on their wedding days but their own homes in disarray! This is a case of physician, heal thyself! Won’t you thank God?
It is easy to blame participants of failed homes. It is easy to become a sudden professor of marriage, organising marriage seminars where you speak with panache and authority on the constitution of happy homes. Drawing graphs, quoting facts and figures on relationships.
Just thank God that things work for you. It is the farmer whose cocoa seedlings survive that is praised as a good farmer. Those who become divorcees today didn’t plan it so. They also had high hopes. But somewhere somehow, the story went awry.
In chapter four of Chinua Achebe’s Things Fall Apart, Okonkwo calls a fellow clansman a woman after the clansman contradicts him at a village meeting. The man who has no titles, and is therefore an agbala, was told that the current meeting was for men only. Okonkwo is quickly chastised by his fellow clansmen and an elder that “Those whose palm-kernels were cracked for them by a benevolent spirit should not forget to be humble.” Okonkwo must apologize to the man.
Therefore, if your marriage works, if you can take care of your family, be grateful to God. Be thankful. Be humble also. It is not by your power. You simply received favour from God.
I hope I am in order?
